Looking for a roommate can be a stressful task, especially in trying to avoid all of those nightmare “crazy roommate” stories you’ve heard from family and friends. You definitely want to make sure you find a roommate you can be compatible with. No matter what source you’re using, it’s important to really narrow down your choice and feel comfortable in your decision. And if this is your first time finding a place of your own altogether, we recommend checking out our helpful tips for renting your first apartment.
Not sure what questions to ask someone who may be your potential roommate? No problem! Our team at Hunziker Property Management has put together a list of important questions to ask. Hunziker has been renting units in Ames for over 60 years, so we’ve heard our fair share of roommate complaints and have learned the best ways to avoid those annoying confrontational conversations.
It’s never easy to talk about money and it can be a sore subject for some. That’s what makes it a good question to ask right from the start. Will one person be in charge of both, and the other will pay their half in Venmo or Paypal? Or, will one do rent and the other does utilities?
A common roommate debacle is cleaning. Your version of what is considered “clean” may be different from theirs. Ask them their comfort level in how they like to keep their space and then share yours. From there, you can come up with a good median ground on where to stand on cleaning your shared spaces. This could look like coming up with a chore chart, taking turns cleaning or doing specific tasks, or even having set chores each person is responsible for.
While this may not seem important right now, it can grow to be a point of relational tension in the future if boundaries are not set.
Speaking of boundaries, it’s good to build and maintain them specific to having guests over. The last thing you want is to bring someone in who is here to “stay for the week”, and suddenly they’re couch-surfing and not contributing. This is also a great time to set expectations for what should occur when hosting others.
Depending on how you are as a person, knowing if your roommate is either an introvert or extrovert can truly help you figure out the best way to live in a shared space. Both types handle situations and relationships differently. If they’re more introverted, they may be less likely to hang out with you in a shared space or do things together. The opposite may be true for someone who is more extroverted.
Most people have a preference for being a morning or night person. For some, waking up is no problem and they enjoy getting things done in the quiet early hours of the morning. Others might prefer staying up late, being their most focused late hours into the night. Asking this question will help you better understand your compatibility with one another, as well as adapting to what your environment living together will look like. For example, if they’re a night person, it may be best to be quiet in the mornings and expect them to be up later in the evenings.
If your potential roommate will be attending Iowa State University, it may be helpful to know what they are studying. If you’re a college student as well, you may even find someone who is on the same path as you! More technical majors like engineering, veterinary medicine, computer science, and others may require them to be in class, at the library, or simply on campus a lot more in labs. While every major is different, knowing what your roommate is going to be studying may help give you a better idea of their overall personality and availability.
Whether you like it or not, nobody is perfect. In every roommate scenario there will always be some sort of conflict, and that’s okay! You’re spending almost all of your time around this person, so it’s only inevitable. Asking your potential roommate how they prefer to solve conflict is a great way to understand them more. So when something comes up you know how to approach the situation and how to expect them to react.
Not necessarily important, but this question can be fun! Do they like grabbing food on-campus at the Memorial Union, getting a quick lunch on Lincoln Way, or going out in downtown Ames for a sit down meal? Whether you’re picky or have a broad palate, knowing what your roommate’s likes and dislikes are can help you make more of a connection with them. After all, sharing a meal together is one of the best ways to build a relationship with another.
If your potential roommate has been in a shared living situation before, ask them about it. Talk about the ups and downs, what worked and what didn’t work. If things went poorly, try to come up with ways you two can avoid that. If things ended well, see if there are any tips or behaviors you two can mimic to replicate that. Remember, no roommate experience will ever be absolutely perfect, but you can make it the best experience that it can be!
The last question to ask is what, overall, they’d want out of a roommate relationship with you. Some people look for roommates as new friends, others may just see it as more of a “business relationship”. Not only is this a good question to ask someone, but also for yourself. It’s a good indicator of the type of enthusiasm they’ll bring into your living space. This can affect how your apartment feels and if it doesn’t feel like “home”, then you’ll never want to be there.
We hope that you enjoy and have fun with your new roommate, whoever they may be! Hopefully this was a good guide to get you started on asking those hard questions to sort out your choice of roommate. Now’s the chance to pick out where you’re going to live (if you haven’t already). If you have any questions about our properties, let us know!